177 | How to Feel Your Feelings - With Rhonda Farr

Jan 10

When you feel anxious, what do you typically do? Do you tense up? Distract yourself? Judge yourself? Try to push it away?

I know these were my default reactions to feeling anxious. I used to HATE it and do anything to avoid it - like not go up and speak to new people or sign up for the harder math class. And when I couldn't avoid it, I resisted it - if I was anxious about an exam or what someone was thinking of me, I'd try to white-knuckle my way through it. I'd feel it growing in my chest like a big heavy knot, until that knot couldn't take anymore and I'd spiral into a massive meltdown over simple things (typically at my Mum, that poor woman used to cop the worst of my emotional outbursts!). But that's what happens when we try to resist our emotions, they get stuck in us and build up into an intensity where they burst out like a kettle boiling over.

But there IS an alternative. One that helps us process through our emotions without fear so we can still take action towards what matters most in life. And I brought Emotions Coach, Rhonda Farr, onto the show to teach us exactly how to do this. It all comes down to changing our RELATIONSHIP with our emotions - knowing how to sink into a place of acceptance, compassion and curiosity for whatever feelings come up. Especially the uncomfortable ones that society teaches us are ''bad'' to feel - like anxiety, shame or overwhelm.